Cover Creating memories is more important to the new generation of couples than putting on a ‘show’ (Photo: Instagram / @theweddingatelier.co)

Tatler asked the wedding planner to the stars about the top wedding destinations in 2024 and how she brings ‘Crazy Rich Asian’ weddings to life

Stopping air traffic for fireworks. Transforming a national park into an enchanted forest. Transporting a client’s bed from their home to a private island. When it comes to wedding planning, there’s no request that’s out of reach for Singapore-based wedding planner, Lelian Chew.

“I’ve seen it all,” she says. “I don’t think anything is impossible. As long as there’s enough time and resources, we can make anything happen. Is it going to be difficult? Yes. But impossible? No.”

It’s this approach that has made Chew the go-to wedding planner for Asia’s elite such as actress Rebecca Lim and billionaire heiress Kim Lim. Chew is the founder of The Atelier & Co, under which she runs her two businesses: The Wedding Atelier and The Floral Atelier, a boutique floral design studio and retailer. And while luxury is her speciality, Chew says the next generation of couples are more interested in creating lasting, meaningful memories than putting on a show.

Tatler caught up with Chew to talk about the top wedding trends for 2024, how she plans ultra-exclusive “pre-opening” hotel weddings, and the growing importance of identity and culture in wedding ceremonies.

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What are some of the top wedding destinations for 2024?
I believe Europe is ready to reclaim its romantic throne in 2024. After a year dominated by Asian wedding destinations due to the pandemic—travellers were reluctant to fly too far, too soon—couples are now turning their attention to Europe’s romantic allure. European cities have that perfect blend of rich history, picturesque landscapes and cultural charm that make for the perfect wedding photo backdrop.

I also anticipate that when China fully opens its gates to travellers, destination weddings in China will once again be in high demand. China boasts numerous stunning locations that appeal to both traditional and modern couples.

Why are destination weddings so popular among ultra-high net-worth (UHNW) couples in Asia?
UHNW couples often seek extraordinary experiences and exclusivity. Destination weddings allow them to host a one-of-a-kind event in a stunning location, creating a memorable and distinctive experience for themselves and their guests. 

Many UHNW couples also value privacy and prefer to celebrate their special day away from public eye. Destination weddings in secluded and luxurious settings allow them to enjoy a more intimate celebration with their closest family and friends. More specifically, Asian UHNW couples often have strong cultural ties and take pride in their heritage. Hosting a destination wedding in their ancestral homeland or a culturally significant location allows them to reconnect with their roots and showcase their traditions and customs in an authentic setting.

Would you say more couples are embracing their roots and incorporating tradition into their wedding ceremonies?
I’d say it’s very ‘in’ now to celebrate your Asian roots—and we love that. Upholding these traditions has so much meaning and they connect the families; the elders appreciate it and the younger ones get to see and understand how weddings in Asia can be different. We’ve always been strong advocates of this and we try to honour these customs in a tasteful way, customising them to each family’s traditions. 

What better time to start new traditions than when you’re starting your own family? Creating that emotional depth could be something as simple as a family emblem or crest, it could also be buying heirlooms such as jewellery or an embroidered traditional Chinese outfit sewn with gold thread. I don’t think a lot of people know how to do this now, so that’s something we’re happy to help younger couples with. It’s about more than just money; it’s about creating something [their] children and grandchildren can hold on to.

You have done a few “pre-opening” weddings, where the couple and their guests can enjoy a world-class experience at hotels before they officially opened. What’s involved in planning a “pre-opening” wedding?
Planning a “pre-opening” wedding at a hotel before its official opening can be exciting. While the process varies depending on the hotel and its policies, the key is to maintain a close collaboration with the hotel’s events team, and having the flexibility and willingness to embrace the experience’s unique nature.

The most challenging part lies in the inherent uncertainties and potential logistical hurdles that come with hosting an event at a venue that’s not yet fully operational. In this situation, our role as wedding organisers extends beyond the usual responsibilities. We find ourselves taking on multiple roles, such as that of the head concierge, head server and more.

We go the extra mile by training receptionists to ensure they are well prepared for our wedding guests, who will be the first to check in. We conduct rehearsals with the food servers, fine-tuning their skills to deliver exceptional service. We even help screen and select hotel staff to ensure they are fully prepared for the grand reveal.

The goal is to navigate together the challenges of organising a wedding in a venue that is still in its pre-opening phase, ensuring that every aspect of the event runs smoothly and exceeds the expectations of the couple and their guests.

What hotels have you done a “pre-opening” with? 
We have done pre-openings with hotels around the world, as our clients are always eager to be the first to put up a show at a brand-new venue. Some of the more memorable ones include Como Maalifushi in Maldives, InterContinental Danang Resort in Vietnam and Mandapa, a Ritz-Carlton Reserve in Bali

These properties that are still [the] talk of the town, even when I return to visit years later.

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