You are a proud advocate for gender equality and female empowerment. Will that influence your parenting style or how you will raise your child?
Yes, most definitely. I want to raise my daughter to be strong and confident, especially in moments of struggle and uncertainty. I plan to start teaching her at a very young age about the importance of self-love, knowing her worth, and empowering herself and those around her. 

You’ve also been vocal about Asian representation, the AAPI community, and racism and Asian hate. How do you feel about having a child who will grow up in a world with all that ugliness, and how will you prepare her for these challenges?
To be honest, I’m very worried about bringing my child into a society full of racism and hate. We’ve all seen the horrifying videos of our elders getting attacked or the frightening targeted armed home invasions; but knowing that our community is constantly fighting and speaking out against these hate crimes brings me hope.

That’s also why my boyfriend and I started our non-profit, Golden Voice Society, to educate people and make an impact on the habitual struggles the AAPI community has endured for many generations and is continuing to endure today. We’re hoping that the next generation can live in a society that is more equal, no matter what race or culture you are. We’ll teach our daughter about these issues, talk through emotions she might have about them, and encourage her to use her voice.

What are you most excited about becoming a parent and what are some things you can’t wait to share with your child as they grow up?
I’m most excited about that unconditional love and bond that I’ll build with her. I’m also excited to watch her learn and explore the world and to be there to guide and support her in every way I can. I can’t wait to play dress up with her and include her in family traditions like dumpling making during Lunar New Year! 

Will becoming a parent affect your involvement in Bling Empire, and what do you think your child will think when they’re older and if they watch the show?
That’s something I’ll probably have to decide when the time comes depending on how my work life balance shifts. I think my child would be curious to see my younger self on television, and hopefully she’ll just have fun watching each episode and learn from my mistakes and success. 

Imagine this: your baby is now becoming a young adult and they stumble across this interview, what message do you have for them?
I would first tell my daughter that mum and dad are so proud of her and that she always needs to stay true to herself—even if it means going against the grain. Life isn’t always easy and there will be times when it's simpler to conform to the status quo, but it's moments like this where you need to be grounded and remember your values and beliefs. I would also tell her to stay curious and never stop learning because life is an ever-evolving journey. Lastly, I would tell her to be kind and compassionate. Those are two qualities that will serve her well in life. 

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