Victoria Tang-Owen, Denise Lo, Tania Mohan and Jane Louey write to their younger selves about motherhood, family, their careers and personal battles
Four women; four different paths in life. In these letters, Victoria Tang-Owen, Denise Lo, Tania Mohan and Jane Louey write to their younger selves about motherhood, family, their careers and personal battles. Revealing formative moments and each sharing a glimpse of their most treasured items, here are some of Hong Kong’s most influential women like you’ve never seen them before.
1. Denise Lo, lawyer and advisor for Louis Vuitton, North Asia
Dear Denise,
I know motherhood must be a far-fetched concept for you to grasp as a teenage boarding school girl who never really liked kids, but I assure you it’s absolute bliss (two children max, haha) despite the constant juggling you’ll have to do between career & family.
Don’t be scared off by the fierce competition you’ve faced from kindergarten to college. Remember, you don’t have to be a tiger mom to survive in this forever-evolving schooling system. I swear you don’t have force your kids to do 10,000 extracurricular activities (just because of peer pressure from other parents) so that they get into the elite schools. All it takes is for you to find passion in whatever your child is interested in—be it picking trash from beaches or devoting time to their favourite hobby.
In the meantime, try to enjoy school and treasure the friends you make there. Your boarding schoolmates will become your closest confidantes and biggest pillars of support throughout the coming years. One of the greatest joys you will experience is not just watching your children grow up, but also seeing them grow up with your best friends’ kids. Always remember to lean on your close ones when you feel overwhelmed (God knows, there will be plenty of moments when you have toddlers running around the house causing mischief, which will then evolve into battling through teenage rebellion).
In the end you will be ever so thankful that you made this decision.
You are doing great and there is simply so much more awaiting you!
Love,
Denise
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